There is no waitinglist at the moment. Feel free to email me for an intake-session.

Gay life is a free life with many choices; sometimes to many. Pain, suffering, or unease gives us a reason to examine our lives, and in that lies a great opportunity. Close examining your connection with your loved-one(s), friends and family gives you insight, more abilities and satisfaction in your attachments.

First step

Telling a stranger about deeply personal issues can feel pretty daunting. And will it really help? It helped me once and later in my trainings. Being gay was not a choice for me but it made me free. I choose to examine gay bonds in all its aspects, starting with my self and my 20+ yrs relationship. Psychotherapy had been a journey to a place I have always known but couldn’t quite reach by myself; a journey to discover a vital and energetic self, hidden behind habits, reactions, and fears. I became a gay-specialized therapist in couple therapy as well as in individual counseling.

My approach

My approach to gender roles, sexual orientation and lifestyle choices is positive and open-minded. If you and I can build together a trusting, respectful “working alliance”, I’d say – and much research agrees – that it’s likely to make a difference in your life, and a life as a couple.

You may already know that you have to work harder than me. I listen well, but I don’t just sit there: I ask thoughtful questions and offer a range of techniques and concepts you might find useful. I am specialized on body-language and sensations in the body. It is the ‘highway’ to deeper insights about your self. Your individuality and uniqueness will guide us in our work.

I see the therapeutic conversation and relationship as a strong tool to facilitate this healing and change in a way that cannot be achieved alone. I offer you a safe, respectful and confidential environment in which to explore your issues, emotions, bodily impulses or thoughts individually or with your partner.

Every session I ‘ll invite you to little experiments for a clear understanding of upcoming troubling experiences. Clients come with many different issues – depression, anxiety, trauma, grief or sexual problems. Grappling with sexual orientation is often an underlying issue.

If you need counseling on work-related issues I call it ‘coaching’. You might experience stress, discrimination-issues or lack in teamwork. Usually is coaching more problem-solving oriented. When it triggers you on childhood-issues, we are back to therapy for a while.

English sessions

Working in English is fine to me. On the Dutch pages here you find more about my CV. It might give you some clues about my 30 years of counseling-experience and trainings. I am a university-graduated therapist and specialized on trauma work and attachments. I write columns on gay-issues in Dutch. See below. Click here for contact.  Or send me an email: info@marcelholtslag.nl. Or just call me in the afternoon: +31(0)206712140.

I am based in Amsterdam-centre. When you live abroad we might work with Skype. My experience is that I can guide you this way as well to deeper feelings and more positive thoughts about yourself, friends and family.